Applying Leadership Behaviours and Qualities to Everyday Life

Leadership doesn’t always have to be something you switch on at work and off at home. There are many leadership qualities, skills, and behaviours that can benefit you in your personal life too.

Take the best parts of how you lead at work and use them to navigate personal challenges, create stronger personal relationships, improve your wellbeing and grow as a person.

Look at the areas where you are already strong as a leader. Perhaps you are extremely organised. Perhaps you are an excellent communicator. Maybe critical thinking is your number one strength. How can you incorporate these skills into your everyday life?

Reflect on your weaknesses as a leader. Perhaps you struggle with confrontation. Maybe you need to be more assertive or decisive. Perhaps your time-management is a mess. Could you use personal situations to work on these weaknesses?

Self-awareness and reflection

Self-reflection allows you to recognise your own biases and identify things you could have done better. This is hugely beneficial in the workplace but it’s equally as important in your personal interactions too.

Think about stressful situations you’ve experienced recently. How did you feel? What made you feel that way? Did those emotions influence your behaviour? How could you have handled the situation more effectively?

Make self-reflection a habit and do it regularly (for example, at the end of each week or month). What did you do well? What could you have done better? What were your biggest learnings? What would you like to improve?

You should also make time for future-oriented reflection. What are your goals and ambitions? What could help or hinder you in achieving these goals? What have you always wanted to do but haven’t done yet? What is preventing you from doing it? What are you going to do about it going forward?

Communication and active listening

Effective communication makes life easier in every setting and situation, especially when we need to have sensitive or tough conversations.

Be aware of your emotional state. If you’re irritated or angry, wait until you feel calmer. If you’re anxious, do some breathing exercises.

Be open to hearing the other person’s point of view. Listening is one of the most useful communication skills you can develop.

Emotional intelligence and empathy

Practice regulating your emotions in stressful situations. Common techniques include changing your environment or removing yourself from the situation, counting to ten and taking deep breaths, or countering a negative emotion by thinking about something that makes you happy.

Learn how to recognise and validate other people’s emotions without absorbing them. Carrying other people’s burdens or absorbing somebody else’s stress can take an emotional toll on you and drain your energy. Over time you may even begin to resent the person you are trying to support.

Decision making and problem-solving

As a leader, it’s likely you are used to making tough decisions at work, and you can apply your decision-making and problem-solving skills to everyday life too.

As with any skill, the best way to improve is through practice. If you struggle with decisiveness, start small – practice making unimportant day-to-day decisions quickly. For example, when you’re at a restaurant or coffee shop give yourself a limit of 60 seconds to decide what to order.  

The better you get at making these small decisions without hesitation, the easier you’ll find it to act decisively when it comes to the more important stuff.  

Leadership traits you should leave at work

Understanding which leadership traits to leave at work is just as important as knowing which ones to bring into your personal life.

Your family and friends aren’t looking for someone to direct or control them and you don’t need to treat your day-to-day life like a project that has to be meticulously planned and managed.

Don’t treat personal experiences like tasks to be ticked off

In a work setting, we’re often focused on a long-term vision or strategy, and the day-to-day is about meeting milestones and hitting targets that will help us get there. In our personal life, we need to learn to enjoy the journey rather than looking for an end goal.

When you’re spending time with family, socialising with friends, or indulging in your favourite hobby, let yourself be present in the moment rather than thinking about the next thing to tick off the list.

You don’t always have to be “the responsible one”

If you’re naturally an organised person, this can be advantageous at work, but it doesn’t mean you always have to be the responsible one at home. You are not accountable for everybody else, and you don’t always have to be the planner, or the person in charge of organising things, or the person who runs around after everyone.

Let other people take charge and give them the opportunity to develop their planning and delegation skills.

Avoid giving advice when people are looking for empathy

Sometimes people are just looking for a friendly ear. They aren’t looking for you to give them a personal development plan, coach them, or set actions. If you are unsure whether a friend or family member is looking for advice or empathy, ask. Do they want practical advice, or do they simply want to get something off their chest?

Avoid using overly direct or transactional language in sensitive situations. Be a friend, not a manager.

You don’t need to over-plan and organise every aspect of life

It’s perfectly ok to embrace spontaneity or go with the flow sometimes. Not everything needs to be efficient or productive, and you don’t have to have every minute of the day planned to perfection.

You need to protect your energy at work by setting boundaries and ensuring effective support mechanisms. You need to protect your energy outside work by giving yourself time to relax and recharge.   

Leadership support and development with Alternative Partnership

As a manager or leader, there’s always something new to learn or a skill you can improve and develop. Organisations need to support managers and leaders in this development, but you also need to invest in yourself.

Getting formal leadership and management training will not only help you build your leadership skills, it will also help you grow in confidence and increase your chances of career progression.  

Alternative Partnership delivers ILM-accredited Leadership and Management training programmes to support you in gaining formal, nationally recognised qualifications.

We also offer leadership coaching, mentoring, and bespoke support for aspiring leaders, leaders looking to take the next step in their career, leaders returning to work after a career break and leaders who are starting their own business.

If you’d like to have a chat about how we can support you, email info@alternativepartnership.co.uk or message Tina directly via LinkedIn.

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